Life is hard to live from the inside out. It is way easier from the outside in. But we are stuck with inside out.
That is why it is easy to see what someone else should do but is harder to look at your own situation.
It is hard to be objective about ourselves.
Not only is it easier to see what everyone else should do it is hard not to tell them.
What we should do is listen to everyone else and just do what they say and not worry about it ourselves.
Should being the operative word here.
There is this other thing that gets in the way of perfect vision and that is fear.
The person that is not you has zero fear. They are like a robot.
Too bad we are not robots or we would say that is a great idea and I will impliment it immediately.
But life does not work like that. Insead we wrestle with all the freaked out voices in our brains who are not very helpful.
The scared voices are just trying to protect you from pain but they are the wrong voice to listen to.
The right one is the dispassionate one, it is being logical. The dispassionate voice is wanting the best for you and it has no fear.
Fear is irrational and no fear is rational.
that might sound counterintuitive but it is right on. Given common sence nothing horrible can happen that will kill you except Fear. and that is what we mostly go on.
What a laugh on us. So we do have nothing to fear but fear itself when it comes to planning what to do next.