There is no normal anything. When people say things are normal they really mean that things are going as they expected. When a different experience than you are used to occurs, people notice and comment about it. But in the great scheme of life we are not in control of anything and we have to do what we can in every circumstance.
How we look at new things in our lives is ultimately the only thing in our control. But that is everything at every time and every place. Crying about how bad things are is a total waste of time and energy. Being depressed is sometimes just thinking about everything that is bad according to us. The same thing might happen to someone else and it is received as a great thing. I am thinking of a model in England who had acid thrown on her face by a stranger. Her face was gone and she would never model again, but two years later she said she was a better person. She was extremely shallow before the crime but now she has develop character and that was worth the pain. Nobody is dealt anything hard unless it is for making them better.